Charity and love

I believe that when it comes to our relationships with others, love and charity are about more than "keeping score". We're no longer worried about who did the dishes last or who performed the last kind deed for the other. We do these things, and many more, because they need to be done and because of our love for that person.
I do not imply that this always applies. If you're in an abusive relationship for example, get out. If your spouse roots not return your love in some manner meaningful to you, it's time to reevaluate the relationship.